Foot Care and the Sandwich Generation
“Mom has an ingrown toenail. Can you come and see her?”
“My uncle has diabetes. Do you do foot care on diabetics?”
McDermott Footcare is often contacted by people in Toronto and the GTA who would like a foot care nurse to come and care for a relative’s feet – mom, dad, uncle, aunt, grandparent – someone they love. The people who call McDermott Footcare are busy juggling kids, jobs, lives, but they are also extremely committed to providing the best care for at least one elderly relative. This is the sandwich generation – responsible for their own immediate family on the one hand and elderly relatives on the other.
The internet is full of articles and resources on this phenomenon. Just Google “sandwich generation Toronto” and you’ll get too many sites for me to link on this blog.
I am a member of the Sandwich Generation. My balancing act consists of 8 kids ranging from grade school to a university graduate on one side of the scale and my mom, who is almost as much work, on the other side. Before dad passed away from complications of Parkinson’s Disease, he was on the scale too. I still haven’t managed to find the right balance and I know I’m not alone.
People who contact me on behalf of a relative share the common trait of being dedicated to improving mom’s and dad’s comfort and well-being. One daughter schedules her mother’s foot care appointments over her lunch hour so she can come home from work when I visit her mom. A son whose father has recently been admitted to a long- term care facility insists that McDermott Footcare be allowed to continue caring for his dad even though the facility has their own foot care nurse. Someone schedules visits for aunt, mom and dad to be seen all at the same time – that’s organized! Others make sure that visits are regularly booked. Of course, I look after my mom’s feet.
It’s not easy. Some days we can’t tell right from left. Unexpected events can be challenging. But lovingly giving back to the people who gave so much for us makes everything worthwhile.